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Your First 30 Days
God meets you at the bottom of your breath, not at the peak of your perfection
Your First Step to Healing Starts Today
You don’t have to fix everything today. You have to begin.
This isn’t a checklist or a test. It’s simply a gentle structure to help you find your footing.
Show up to six meetings. You don’t have to speak, listen, or be present.
Notice what resonates.** Don’t compare—identify. Look for parts of your story in others'.
Write, pray, fast, or reflect between meetings.** Even a short journal entry, quiet prayer, or simple fast can help you reconnect with what’s real.
Make one connection. A text, an email, outreach, 3/3 or a quick “can we talk?” can break the isolation.
Let go of doing it perfectly. This isn’t about performance—it’s about progress and presence.
You're not expected to do this alone. We're here to walk with you, one day, one step at a time
The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart;
and save such as be of a contrite spirit.”*
— Psalm 34:18
This verse reminds us that we don’t need to have it all together to be seen by God.
If your heart feels broken, if you've made mistakes you don’t know how to fix, or if you're starting over for what feels like the hundredth time, you're not disqualified.
You are not forgotten. You are not disowned. You are a child of the Most High—a soul of royal blood.
In the eyes of God, suffering doesn’t make you less worthy. It makes you more tenderly known.
He doesn’t flinch at your pain—He leans in.
And every small step you take toward healing is cherished in eternity.
This journey begins right where you are. And you are not alone in it.
How to Know If You Belong Here?
You don’t need a diagnosis. You don’t have to hit bottom. You need to be honest and brave enough to begin
Ask yourself:
- Do I feel out of control in my relationships, fantasies, or behaviors?
- Have I made promises to myself—or to God—that I couldn’t keep?
- Do I hide parts of my life from others out of fear or shame?
- Do I chase emotional highs, even when they lead to regret?
- Do I feel spiritually or emotionally disconnected?
If you answered “yes” to even one, you’re not alone. We’ve been there.
We’re not here to name your struggle.
We’re here to help you reclaim your life—and stop the destructive power of secrecy, shame, and compulsive patterns.
Still unsure if this applies to you?
Many newcomers find clarity by taking SLAA’s self-assessment:
40 Questions for Self-Diagnosis
Welcome. If you're here, you're not alone
Many of us have wrestled with secret pain—cycles we couldn’t stop, promises we couldn’t keep, and relationships that left us feeling stuck, ashamed, or disconnected.
Stripling Steps is a recovery fellowship for those seeking freedom from
Core Addictive Behaviors
These are most commonly acknowledged by SLAA members:
Obsessive romantic or sexual fantasy
Compulsive masturbation, often paired with pornography or fantasy
Pornography addiction
Serial relationships (constant pursuit of new romantic partners)
Intrusive flirting or seduction as a way to gain validation
Compulsive sex, including with strangers or unsafe partners
Emotional dependency (needing someone to feel okay or whole)
Fear-based clinging in relationships (staying too long out of fear)
Intrusive texting, calling, or stalking former partners
Affairs / cheating as a pattern
Compulsive use of dating apps / swiping
Seeking or giving sexual attention to feel "enough"
💔 Destructive Relationship Patterns
Limerence (obsessive infatuation with another person)
Fantasy relationships (obsessing over someone who isn’t available or reciprocal)
Enmeshment / Co-dependency
Avoidance of intimacy while appearing sexually or emotionally available
Love anorexia (avoiding relationships out of fear or control)
Control and manipulation of partners for emotional security
Using sex or romance to escape pain, boredom, or fear
⚠️ Cross-Addictive Behaviors
While not unique to SLAA, these often co-occur and are addressed in recovery:
Substance use is linked to acting out (alcohol/drugs as a precursor to acting out)
Compulsive fantasy roleplay / online personas
Use of technology or social media to feed romantic/sexual obsession
Voyeurism/exhibitionism as compulsive behavior
Intrusive messaging or digital stalking
Repeatedly violating one's own boundaries
🔄 Addiction Cycles Common in SLAA
Break-up → withdrawal → rebound cycle
Shame → acting out → more shame
"Perfect partner" chasing → crashing → despair
"Push-pull" dynamics (hot/cold relationships)
Being addicted to unavailability (emotionally or physically unavailable partners)
You don’t have to be perfect, or even clear about what you believe. You just need to be honest and willing to begin.
This is a space for truth without judgment. Recovery without performance. And connection without shame.
What Are These Patterns?
We struggle with patterns of addiction in relationships, fantasy, emotional dependency, or sexual behavior.
Sometimes it looks like chasing love, intensity, or connection—trying to fill a hole we can’t name.
Other times, it shows up in secrecy, compulsive behaviors, emotional obsession, or cycles of withdrawal and control.
We may bounce between idealizing people and resenting them.
We may stay in toxic relationships too long—or avoid intimacy entirely out of fear.
Some of us act out sexually. Others shut down emotionally or physically, using isolation, detachment, or control to feel safe.
This is often called sexual or love anorexia—when we compulsively withhold connection, affection, or intimacy as a way to protect ourselves from vulnerability or pain.
It’s not the absence of desire; it’s the presence of fear.
Whatever the form, the root is the same:
We're using people, fantasy, avoidance, or emotional intensity to cope with fear, loneliness, or pain.
And even when we want to stop, we often feel like we can’t.
This isn’t about morality—it’s about captivity.
And recovery isn’t about perfection. It’s about reclaiming your peace.
If this feels familiar, you’re not alone.
And you’re not beyond healing.